Shaun T Blogs the Finale of My Diet Is Better Than Yours: What to Do When You Want to Give Up

01/29/2016 at 11:15 AM ET

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As an elite personal trainer and creator of the hugely popular Insanity program, Shaun T knows fitness. Now he’s hosting ABC’s new weight loss competition My Diet Is Better Than Yours – where five average Americans are paired with a celebrity trainer to help them shed pounds. The winning team will be featured in PEOPLE. Shaun T will be blogging exclusively about what really went down after every episode – check back each week and follow him on Twitter @shauntfitness.

A weight loss journey is serious. Yes, this is a TV show, but this is also real life. Why am I stressing this? Because you and only you have the ability to control your journey. It’s not going to work if you are not pushing yourself past your limits.

Pushing past your limits is something you do every day when you get tired in a workout but wanting to quit is not an option. Each pound you lose is synonymous with digging deeper. Go past your limits! Push yourself to new heights! All of this comes from a motto I live by: You must be comfortable being uncomfortable.

The reason why I stayed 50 lbs. overweight for so long was because I was comfortable hiding behind my internal secrets. I was comfortable hiding in the bigger clothes. I had no accountability and I had no one to answer to until I realized I needed to answer to myself.

The contestants on this show realized that ultimately it’s not about their experts. It’s not about the money. It’s about them. So at the end of the seventh episode when the experts left the show, it was an eye opening experience for everyone. In their heads they had to have the discussion with themselves. They had to train themselves. They had to motivate themselves and the biggest thing they had to do was to accept themselves.

Acceptance happens immediately but you must embrace the internal you. When you set out on your own journey, you will experience the same things these contestants experienced.  It’s scary, it’s challenging, it’s fun, it’s fearful, it’s success, it’s failure, it’s getting back up and trying again — but most of all, it’s life. Kurt said it best, “Strive for something better and don’t be mediocre in your life!” This show is real life. You saw Taj give up. How many of you hit points in your life when you wanted to give up?

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The reason why I got so emotional when Taj quit is because I knew no matter how big or small, a setback is definitely possible. You have to figure out ways to move forward and even if you hit a snag you must continue to trust and believe in who you are. No one can trust you for you and no one can believe you for you. As you saw at the end of the half marathon, La’Tasha said, “This means there isn’t anything I can’t do.” That goes for you, too! You really can do anything you put your mind to.

Jasmin, Jay, Kurt, and La’Tasha really pushed themselves to get to the next level in their lives. You see that if you stick to something, you will find success. It’s a beautiful thing to know that you can go all the way. That’s not to leave out Taj. Taj is a great example of what we all go through daily. Struggles, whether it be internally or externally, they do happen. What I do know is that all of these contestants, including Taj, are continuing their weight loss journey. But most of all they are continuing a life-long healthy journey. It’s not always about the weight—sometimes it’s about the baggage you carry in your life.

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Eat better, feel better, and always remember that you can do it!

Thank you for watching My Diet Is Better Than Yours, your viewership means everything to me!

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Dorean Loggins-Hodges on

I’d loved the show. I’m awaiting Season 2.

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Robert on

It’s great that someone could lose 25% or more of their bodyweight in 14 weeks, but what will be more impressive is how many of them can keep it off. I think the Wild Diet will prove to be more sustainable for Kurt, than the superfood swap diet will be for Jasmin. She says she likes to run, but she had a goal to reach, will she keep running for life? Hopefully it’s something she will stick with or find some other exercise that is just as enjoyable for the long term.

C on

I wish the host and trainers had been more vocal about therapy being okay and totally normal, and NOT the same as being called crazy. Taj was obviously dealing with a bunch of stuff on top of her sh——y attitude, and I think her trainer was absolutely right to suggest counseling. She seems like a miserable person and I hope one day she gets the help she needs.

Kay Crider on

My husband and I loved the show, but a person starting out that much smaller pound for pound she is going to win….mathematically speaking.

Anyushka on

The wild diet is much more sustainable. I thought it was curious how they all “lost weight” but kept their guts.

Sandra on

I love the show. But what a waste of good trainers and time with Taj. Stinky attitude throughout. I think for the next season, they should seriously screen contestants and make sure that they are willing to put in all the work.

Mrs.B on

Jeff was the contestant, not Jay.

Eva on

Great article. I was over weight and tried so many things. Different things work for different people and I was lucky enough to find one that worked for me. I lost 18 pounds in one month without much exercise and it’s been a life changer. I have found this method to be helpful in lasting weight loss: http://forskolin-fit.tk I would recommend you to visit. Good luck!

Lchfgirly on

I loved the show, would totally watch a second season. I follow a diet similar to Kurt’s that is low carb, high fat. My money was on him the whole time because I now first hand how effective that plan is. And yeah, he may not be eating handfuls of grapes as a snack like Jasmine, but he gets bacon cheeseburgers, chicken wings, and dark chocolate. I think that’s the better “swap”, in my opinion…

Ryan on

This show has inspired me to do more, be better, be more honest with myself about my health… Thank you – since I started watching this I have dropped an average of six pounds a week… Thank you for just showing us what a real life experience can be

Daphne on

Taj didn’t leave because she “gave up,” she left because her trainer didn’t acknowledge any of her feelings. During her yellow belt test she was sweating pools and all she wanted was a sip of water and a second to catch her breath. She was shot down. Somehow just asking for a quick breather is giving up and so instead the importance was placed on finishing how the trainer wanted her to finish. It wasn’t the pouring sweat that showed she was fighting for herself, it was a stupid belt that meant more. On a personal note I found it insulting the trainer said she needed “professional” help in order to help herself. The trainer didn’t say that to be positive, she said it to add more insult to both Taj and inadvertently people who do receive services from mental therapy. What I found most unfortunate was that viewers saw her self worth was only measured in how positive she can be and not the pain of her fighting for herself even though she was going through a divorce. Bottom line is that no one wants to have their feelings and efforts belittled. If it is there should be no surprise of a backlash.

Myla Hughes on

What’s the name of the different diets they chose on the show?

Anonymous on

I loved the show. I love u T. I’m currently doing Hip Hop Abs. Congrats on all of your recent accomplishments. Its your time! Ride the Wave!
I agree with the others about Taj. One excuse after another, constant complaining and whinning, crying because her mate ate pizza in front of her…overall FUNKY attitude.

vinny on

It is pretty obvious that losing most body weight is not an indication of how well any diet works. It is ALL about losing body fat while retaining lean muscle. Kurt has shed most of the body fat overall and yet he did not win.
This was a fundamental flaw of the show. The winner should have been crowned based on the total body fat percentage loss.
BMI and scale weight is misleading and should not be used.
But I guess that it’s the easiest measurement to compare and understand. Too bad.

Misa on

Taj had such a “quitter” attitude. This truly upset me because SHE TEACHES CHILDREN! What a horrific role model for those children. She should be ashamed of herself for showing those children how to quit and have a bad attitude. Crappiest teacher of the year award goes to….. TAJ!

Sab on

Taj needs to see the common denominator in each of her relationships. It her. She sees everyone is against her. For her to be able to move forward she needs to realize she is not a victim nor is EVERYONE against her (cookie gate). She does need counseling and there is nothing wrong with that!!!!

Anonymous on

Taj did in fact quit, but what all of these weight loss shows fail to adequately address is the psyche of those people. Every single one of us has things in our lives that stop us from pushing past them. You occasionally hear to “go to therapy” but unless a trainer is set up for this guaranteed resistance, the person will most always ultimately quit. Getting to the heart of the matter is for professionals and can work in conjunction with medical and fitness teams. Disappointed in Taj for sure, but completely understand (both side) of the issue. Good luck, hope there is s season 2.

DLLGF on

Taj did in fact quit, but what all of these weight loss shows fail to adequately address is the psyche of those people. Every single one of us has things in our lives that stop us from pushing past them. You occasionally hear to “go to therapy” but unless a trainer is set up for this guaranteed resistance, the person will most always ultimately quit. Getting to the heart of the matter is for professionals and can work in conjunction with medical and fitness teams. Disappointed in Taj for sure, but completely understand (both side) of the issue. Good luck, hope there is s season 2.

Jason on

As a fitness professional I am loving the show! There seems to be a ton of real life interactions and feelings on the show. It’s a shame however someone like “Taj” was allowed on the show. There’s over a million people who would love to be on the show to help themselves and she wastes it all. She was really a waste of time.

Rob on

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Alyssa on

I really hope this show is coming back. What I thought make this show the best of all the fitness shows is that they allow the person trying to lose weight to progress for the entire season. My only hope for making this show better is maybe making a change in how many weeks into the season each contestant is allowed to change their diet plan. I think it would be more useful/helpful? if it’s set up so that diet changes are cut off to allow the contestant a minimum of 4 weeks with a new program.

Anonymous on

vinny on February 1st, 2016
It is pretty obvious that losing most body weight is not an indication of how well any diet works. It is ALL about losing body fat while retaining lean muscle. Kurt has shed most of the body fat overall and yet he did not win.

Vinny, I completely agree with you. I would like to see a show that works to change the mindset and teaches the importance body fat to muscle ratio has in being healthy, not just losing the most amount of weight overall. If the criteria for winning was who lost the most body fat while retaining or increasing their muscle mass I would watch that show. Muscle takes up less space because it is compact unlike fat. So a skinny person can be skinny fat (has a high body fat count). As a woman, I would prefer to weigh 143 or even 150 at 5’5″ with a fit, strong, and toned body, than be skinny while lacking tone and definition.

Edwin Farrall on

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