Wellness Guru Gabrielle Bernstein Reveals the Best Advice She Gave Oprah Winfrey

02/22/2016 at 09:26 AM ET

Gabrielle Bernstein OprahCourtesy Gabrielle Bernstein; Inset: Getty

Even Oprah Winfrey sometimes falls prey to the negative effects of cyber-bullying.

When the media mogul, 64, met with wellness guru Gabrielle Bernstein, Winfrey admitted that she was having trouble handling the cruel things people were saying about her on the Internet.

“I was like, ‘You too? Really?’,” Bernstein tells PEOPLE. “My advice to her was ‘forgive and delete.’ She loved it. Everyone gets haters, especially if you’re that profound.”

Regardless of what stressors and negativity you are facing, Bernstein – who is on the steering committee for Philosophy’s Hope and Grace Initiative to support community-based mental health efforts – is sharing her top three tips for living a better life with PEOPLE readers:

Happiness is a choice you make.
“Every day it has to be a commitment,” says Bernstein. “Each moment you can be choosing to be having a bad attitude or a good [attitude]. It’s really a commitment and a choice that you make. That’s the most important thing.”

Meditate every day.
“Having some sort of silent contemplation or stillness practice is mandatory to having sustainable happiness and feeling centered,” she says. Bernstein believes even a one-minute meditation can have vast effects. New to meditating? Try this simple technique:

Gently press your thumb against your pointer finger, then your middle finger, index finger and pinky finger.
When you touch your pointer finger say, “Peace.”
When you touch your middle finger say, “Begins.”
When you touch your index finger say, “With.”
When you touch your pinky finger say, “Me.”

Breathe deeply as you say each word. Go as fast or as slow as you’d like.

Be kind and compassionate.
“I think people are really negative towards each other,” says Bernstein. “We’re living in a really toxic time, and the world is not giving us many reasons to feel safe. We really have to use our words and our energy wisely to stay committed to being kinder to people in our world.”

Gabrielle Olya, @GabyOlya

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On a clear day, you can see forever—or at least that’s the wicked thought behind L.A. designer Agi Berliner’s transparent idea: see-through jeans. Exhibitionists notwithstanding, most folks wear them over bathing suits or as attention-getting evening wear with halters, garter belts and body stockings. Created for the disco crowd, the $34 jeans are selling like, well, hot pants. In just six weeks, 25,000 pairs have already been sold in such major department store chains as Macy’s, Bonwit’s and Saks.

“What’s limiting American designers is that we’re afraid to do something different,” says Berliner, 32, a Hungarian émigré who fled with her family to the U.S. in 1956. Agi thought up the gimmick in London while marveling at the way plastics were being employed by designers of punk fashion. In her L.A. office, where she designs for La Parisienne junior sportswear, Agi spent five days on the phone and six weeks testing to come up with the right plastic.

Agi herself tried out the French-cut jeans with the zipper in front, and quickly found several problems: Some plastics tore away from stitching, others wouldn’t bend and all fogged with perspiration. The ideal material proved to be a vinyl supplied by a bookbinder. The steam was eliminated with a series of vents behind the knees and in the crotch. “They’re no hotter than polyester pants,” claims Agi, “and if you wear them with tights, they won’t stick to your legs.”

Whatever the discomfort and despite the problem of Saturday night feverishness, discomaniacs report one major advantage of the plastic pants: no laundry bills. To keep Berliner’s see-through jeans clear, all the wearer needs is a little Windex.

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This is akin to the “mom” whose daughter is an incorrigible brat, telling her the reason she doesn’t have any friends is that everyone else is jealous.